Character vs personality

I need to make it clear that this reflection wasn't done by me, but he is a close friend of mine and he shares my thoughts and opinions. I will be writing about what i feel about studying abroad away from home soon! Watch this space.

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Who do people marry? Mr. Charismatic Personality or Mr. Dependable Character.

Very often, we heard women saying that they like a man because he is “funny, makes me laugh, caring”. Sometimes, guys will tell us they like a girl because she is “cute, sweet, full of sunshine.” They all seemed so happily in love and having great time together. Yet too often, a lot ended in just a few months or years. So what went right?

We often fall in love with the wrong person. Please do not get the wrong impression that the guy or girl is not the right one for you. However, our circumstances change and our love for each other may not have changed in accordance to the circumstances.

We are very often attracted to person first by their personality. Too many of us take that liking to the extreme and soon, we find ourselves loving the personality more than person. If our girlfriend or boyfriend do not behave in certain way or behaviour reflecting the personality that we like, we will get upset and will think that they had stop loving us.

Being attracted to a person’s personality is not wrong. It is perfectly fine and normal. However, a relationship built on loving one’s personality is one that will not last long.

1. Personality changes over time.

2.Personality changes with maturity.

3.Personality changes with personal experiences.

4.Personality changes with social-economic influences.

5.Personality changes with mindset.

When the personality changes and is not what we are looking for, the romance inevitably becomes zero.

On the other hand, Character is the one dependable part of a person that is boring but is the core of a person. We are attracted to a person by his or her personality but it is the character that we should love and cherish because a relation ship built on a strong foundation will flourish and grow.

Personality is what keeps a relationship ALIVE and character is what keeps it moving forward and together.

Loving one’s character means loving the person because of his/her faithfulness, honesty, diligence, mutual respect and etc. It means that the character of the one you love and cherish will not change nor will it fade.

1. Character is built up over a long sustained period of time so it will not fade easily.

2.Character is the core of any person so it is the true reflection of a person, not personality.

3.Character reveals who the person is under pressure so you will know if the person is easily to spend your life with or not.

4.Character reflects the education,upbringing and maturity of the person.

5.Character reveals the cornerstone upon which one builds his/her life on.

There is not a right answer as to how we should judge a relationship. I am single and haven't had a girlfriend in the longest time so my judgment may not be fair. However, I personally believe character is the essence of a person! Nothing remains constant except for change. When your loved one change, be compassionate, be willing to understand the change and adapt to it. There is no greater gift than love, the only thing that keeps this gift going is perseverance and it is sacrifice that exemplify love.